October 12, 2020

Motherhood at a Glance: Make the Most of Your Mornings

Today is official the last feature of 2020 for Motherhood at a Glance! Thank you so much to everyone who has been excited about this project from the beginning and read every week. I’m so grateful these women were able to inspire and uplift so many others through their strengths and encouragement! 

Stefany Hiatt is our writer today! She is a mom of three living in central Texas. She is a content creator who works hard to empower busy moms to break out of survival mode and make an impact between diaper changes! Today, she is sharing with us how she has created a morning routine to help center herself for a day of service. 

Let me ask you this mama, is the first thing you do in the morning attend to a crying baby, push away a toddler jumping on your bed, or finding something for your young child who seems to think you have an answer for where all his/her toy are? 

If your answer sounds like any or all of the above (or similar to it) then I would highly encourage you to listen up. You’ve probably heard this before, but I’m going to tell you again, and let this time sink in! 

Now this topic isn’t about grace but I do feel the need to say this.... don’t beat yourself up on the days you can’t wake up before the kids or slept through the alarm because the baby was up 4 times. I use to beat myself up because I intended to wake up early but then something would keep me up in the night whether it was a baby or a toddler or just having to pee a million times during pregnancy. But it’s okay to give yourself some grace. 

Start small, like maybe once or twice a week wake up before your kids. See how it goes. Once you’re consistent with that then you can add more days. Also, know there are seasons for everything. If you are have newborn at home this may not be something that will work for you in this particular season of motherhood.

Slow and steady really does win the race sometimes! Especially when building habits in my opinion. With that being said, what can do you in the morning? Here are some things I personally like to do before my kids are awake in the morning. I rarely get through everything on this list but the mornings I even get though one are like a night and day difference between being woken up and immediately taking care of someone else. 

Prayer, mediation, read 10 pages of a personal development book, stretch, chug water, affirmations, visualize your day, schedule the day out, and gratitude journal. 

Then after completing a couple of those I try my best to get some “worst first” activities done. These are things in my home business that need to get done that aren’t my favorite but are the most important. I first started waking up before my kids when I read the book, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. If you haven’t ever read this book before, I highly recommend it. It’s the reason I even have a morning routine. 

If you’re struggling right now to stay emotionally and mentally strong throughout the day with everything motherhood throws your way, I invite you to reflect on how you can strengthen the start to your day. It will truly change the energy of the rest of your day! 

I hope you feel inspired to make the most of your mornings moving forward this week! I know I feel motivated to revamp the way our morning look! As a recap, Stefany suggests that you

Wake up before your children

Create a routine that works for you

October 5, 2020

Motherhood at a Glance: The Power in Knowing You Are Enough

We are officially one week away from wrapping up Motherhood at a Glance for 2020! Our second-to-last writer is my sister-in-law, Ivonne Fullerton!

Ivonne lives in Southern California with her husband and their twin boys! She loves all forms of adventure outdoors and when inside, she loves to crochet. Ivonne is such an incredible mom and has been through so much in her motherhood journey! I’m so excited for you to read how she has cultivated confidence in her life and motherhood through the simple reminder that “you are, have and do enough”. 



You are enough 

You have enough 

You do enough 

I don't know who came up with this quote, but it has been lifechanging for me. How many of us could use this reminder on a daily basis? I know I could. Motherhood is amazing, but it can be hard, and to top it off we are hard on ourselves. We set such high expectations, we look around and see that someone has more or does more, and you end up feeling not as successful or fulfilled. And with social media at the palm of our hands, it's so easy to go down this dangerous path of comparison. I know that I have done this before, and sometimes I still do. And I have to constantly remind myself of these three simple truths to bring myself back from the darkness that comes with comparing my life with others. 

I have always been told that I seem very confident. I haven't always felt confident though. A lot of times I faked it. Fake it till you make it right? That's what we're told. I have struggled all throughout my life with feeling like I'm not enough. Especially when I was younger. It's pretty common to feel like you don't belong as a teenager. But I really felt like I didn't have a place where I belonged. So, like any teenage girl that felt like she had no place that she fit in, I did what I felt others wanted of me.

It wasn't until I served a mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, that I truly felt like I had a purpose. As missionaries, well back then more than now, we had very limited access to technology. We only got to email our families and friends once a week. Yeah, email, we couldn't text or call them. We got one email, once a week and that is all we had. So, during that time, I had a lot of time to myself and my thoughts. I got know me. The real me. 

I was able to cultivate true confidence. I was able to learn how to get to a place where I felt like I was enough. Now when the stress of being a mother gets to me and I start to think that I'm not being a good mom or wife, I make sure to take time to myself and do what I learned during my mission to remind myself that I am a good mother and wife. I take time to myself. I'm not just talking about going out and doing something nice for myself. I'm talking about being alone, complete silence, and just sit and listen. Listen to your body, listen to the thoughts that cross your mind, and do as my husband says, "feel all the feelings." Cry it out! Tune out all the noise from the world that makes you feel like you aren't good enough. List all the things you're good at. Remind yourself of how amazing you are. Just breath. You will feel a calmness come over you and you will forget all the negative feeling that were overwhelming you. 

If you don't get much of an opportunity to get away, do this when you're in the shower. Right before bed is also a great time to do this, I find that it helps me sleep better. Just take that time to look inside yourself. Five minutes is all you need. And maybe come up with a phrase that you can tell yourself to help remind you of why you are a good woman, mom, daughter or wife. I just keep adding to mine, as time goes by. I'll share mine, and maybe one day you can share yours with me :)

I am enough because I am a daughter of God. I am enough because I do my best.  I am enough, because I say I am enough. 

Where do I begin with this one? Why do we self- sabotage and compare our lives with others? I honestly don't know. It is so unhealthy and it just leads to feeling unfulfilled. I have a twin sister, and our whole life we have been compared. Who is smarter? Who is stronger? Who is nicer? Who is meaner? People would constantly compare us. So, it's no surprise that I was constantly comparing my life to hers. While I was serving a mission my sister got married, got a house, and when I got back, she was talking about having kids. And here I was getting home to live with my parents, with no job or car or money. 

Time passed and I talked to her about how unfulfilled I felt. I told her of how I felt like I was behind in life because I didn't have what she had. Do you want to know what she said? She said that she sometimes compared her life to mine. I got to live on my own, I got to explore and get to know myself, and buy my first car all on my own. Isn't that crazy! Here I was envying her for all she had. And here she was doing the same thing. 

At the end of our conversation we came to the conclusion that despite us looking in and wishing some things were different, in the end we did what was best for us. I was not ready for marriage at 20 like she was. I wasn't ready for kids at 22. I was barely ready for them at 25. One thing I realized is that someone will always be ahead of me, someone will always have more. I can either spend all my time comparing and trying to keep up, or I can enjoy the process of getting to where I wish to be.  

I love sitting with my husband and just talking about how blessed we are to have what we have. We'll sit and watch the boys play and we'll look at each other and say how happy we are to be here. Those are my favorite moments. 

Slow down, take time to look around and see the blessings in your life. Write them down and then go back and remind yourself of it when you start to feel like you don't have enough.  

People always ask me how I do it? I always just say that I cry a lot. They laugh because they think I'm joking. I laugh because I'm not. 

Oh, how I've cried. I don't think I have ever cried so much in my life. I'm not saying I haven't enjoyed being a mom. I'm just simply stating the truth that a lot of us already know. Being a mom is exhausting in so many ways. Emotionally,  physically and spiritually. I cry because I feel like I can't do this mom thing anymore. I felt this way all the time when I first had the boys. I was 25 with pre-mature twin boys, trying to go to the hospital as much as I could to see them and be there with them. I was pumping every 3 hours on the clock trying to make sure I had enough breastmilk for them. 

When they got home the twins were on a 3-hour schedule, which means that every three hours they needed to be fed. That's what they were used to while in the NICU and we had to keep that schedule at home. They couldn't latch because my nipples were huge because of all the pumping I was doing. Imagine trying to get chores done and having to pump for an hour every 3 hours. Try going out! I literally took the pump with me everywhere and I literally pumped everywhere to have food for my children. I did this until I could get enough milk saved in the freezer. 

Once we got them breastfeeding, I spent over an hour with them on my breasts. Again, try doing your chores while having two little boys latched to your breasts for over an hour at a time. I was feeding on demand! And they demanded a lot! At nights I would still wake up every 3 hours and pump for an hour each time because I had to keep up with my supply, and I had to have enough milk for them for the days they were with the babysitter. I had no sleep. I was tried, two little humans depended on my breasts to provide their meals. I eventually lost it. 

I felt so defeated, I felt like a failure. To top it off I would see these super moms that had their life together. And I felt like no matter how many hours were in the day, I just couldn't get everything done. I couldn't keep up. My house was a mess, my laundry sat on the floor for weeks and then I realized I could finally see my floor again because I had to do laundry again. Sometimes the laundry thing still happens. These expectations of doing everything and having my life together caused depression. 

I would lose my patience with my little ones and with my husband. I would sleep in and let my husband take care of things because I just didn't feel like I could get out of bed. Honestly, I am so grateful to my husband for stepping in when I had my bad days, and for stepping in when he noticed I was losing my patience with the twins. He still does. He is an amazing husband and father, I could not have gotten this far without him. 

Luckily, one day I realized that I didn't have to do it all in one day or on my own. I learned to accept help. I let go of the idea that I had to do it all on my own. I accepted that if I wanted to be a good mother, I would need help. And help is what I got. My mom helped me so much. She always made me feel better, she reminded me that it takes time to get adjusted to being a mother. I had and still have friends and family willing to help me when I need it. 

Eventually we did some sleep training, we got the boys on a schedule and we keep to it. It has been the best thing we have done as parents. It allows me to stay sane. I take the time before the twins wake up to work out and clean, when they are awake they have all of my attention. When they nap, I clean some more and sometimes I nap as well. When they wake up from their nap, I am all theirs again. And when 8pm comes around we send them off to bed and my husband and I spend time together. The schedule has changed as the boys got older, but we always make sure they have a schedule. I can't begin to tell you how much this has helped me. I'm not as depressed, or stressed out. I love the schedule. 

I also make sure not to push myself. I do what I can and I try to not stress over the things I didn't get to. I just look around make a mental list of what needs to be done the next day and I tell myself that I did my best today and tomorrow I will do a little better. Doesn't mean I always will, but that's ok. I tried. 

Mamas, remind yourself that what you did today is enough. You do so much, give yourself some credit. It's the end of the day, just take a seat and relax. 

I just wish to share one last quote.  

Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind. It places her who honors its holy calling and service next to angels. 

-J Rieben Clark

Thank you so much to Ivonne for this simply yet, so often forgotten, reminder that you are enough, you have enough and you do enough. There is so much power in knowing that and being able to cultivate it in order to have more power in your motherhood! 

September 28, 2020

Motherhood at a Glance: Managing Your Time in the Juggle of Motherhood

Welcome back! It’s been a couple weeks since our last Motherhood at a Glance feature article, mostly because I needed a break and needed to focus on working on other things. But it feels so good to be back for the last couple articles of 2020!

Today’s writer is Audrey Stephens, a friend of mine from San Diego! Audrey has been married to her hubby, Josh, for five years and they have been blessed with two sweet babes under two! After struggling through many years of infertility, they had their first baby through IVF and conceived their second naturally. Audrey loves running, reading and baking! She is a rockstar of a mom and I’m so excited for her to share some her insights on the strength of planning that she has cultivated and nourished during her motherhood journey.

I have always been a planner. My friends know this about me and have helped me grow that into more of a strength. I’m the kind of person that gets excited every year to buy my new planner and gets totally picky about the layout of it. Call me a nerd... but I love it!

During school this came in handy when I had assignments due, lacrosse games, and work. While we were in our college student phase this came in handy when I was working 3 jobs and had to manage my schedule. Then I became a stay at home mom and there wasn’t anything to “pencil in” anymore. I felt kind of lost. Newborns make you so busy in a very different way. It was a hard transition for me! Now, having 2 kids under 2, planning is even more important for me.

I found myself not getting as much done in my days and weeks as I wanted to but at first, I just attributed that to being a new mom. One day it hit me that I was no longer planning ANYTHING out. I wasn’t planning or prioritizing.

I soon learned that I needed to have a game plan.

At this point I started coaching lacrosse in the evenings again so my days became just a little busier. A game plan was necessary. Coaching at night meant I needed to have my daily things done before I left for practice. Cleaning, organizing, preparing dinner, and doing what I could for the baby before I had to leave. How would I be able to do that without a plan? 

“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent, and not enough time on what is important” -Steven R. Covey

Now came the fun part. Write. It. Down.

Steven R. Covey has said before that if he could give 1 piece of advice it would be “plan your week”. I needed somewhere to write it all down to keep my thoughts organized. Writing down the times of my games and practices was easy, especially since those rarely varied. What was more difficult for me was spreading out my duties at home in a way that didn’t make me go crazy yet helped me get it all done. 

I got into a habit every Sunday evening of going through the upcoming week with Josh. Letting him know when swim lessons were, any church activities, lacrosse, etc. I asked him if there is anything he needed/wanted me to do for him during the week. Then, I wrote down my game plan. It is also helpful for us to have a shared calendar on our phone where I put things like doctor appointments, swim lessons, or parties. Some things were a weekly task but even week also had its unique to-do list.

It is very easy to make myself overwhelmed with everything that I want to get done. To combat that, I would plan some more strenuous tasks with others that are quick and easy.

“Don’t be busy, be productive”

It is easy to do the things that come every week (like laundry and grocery shopping) but other things are so easy to push aside. I’ll admit, there have been times when I flip through my planner and see the same task 3 weeks in a row that has still not been crossed off… And that is okay! It is all about prioritizing. 

When things are written down in a way that is not intimidating it makes it so much easier to follow through. Everytime I get to cross something off my list I feel like super-mom, and you should too!

I could tell you exactly how I plan out my week to get everything done but that probably wouldn’t work for you. Everybody has different needs, to-do lists, and priorities. It took a little bit of time to find what worked best for me and my family and once I got in my groove I was able to add things to my week to help my family and even pencil in some self care.

That’s right… Schedule yourself some self care!! Put it on your to-do list or in your planner and make sure your partner knows that it’s there.

Through all of this I have learned to not be so hard on myself. As women, we are way too hard on ourselves for no reason at all! My one piece of advice is to figure out what your priority is (singular, not plural) and focus your time there. If your kids need you more today, give them that time. You can do the vacuum tomorrow.

“Women wear many hats, but it is impossible, and unnecessary to wear them all at once. The Spirit helps us determine which work to focus on today.” Joy B Jones

Thank you so much to Audrey for this great take on managing your time as a mama. I know I struggle with this big time, so I’m going to be putting this into action this week! As a recap, her suggestions are:

Write. It. Down. Put your week in writing so you can make the most use of your time

Follow through and find what way works best for you

August 31, 2020

Motherhood at a Glance: Cultivating More Patience

Today's Motherhood at a Glance feature writer is my sweet friend, Lauren! It's always funny having friends with the same name as you - you're always addressing yourself! ;) 

Lauren grew up in AZ but has since lived all over the country! She is an amazing mama to two sweet kids, her son who is three-and-a-half and their daughter who is one-and-a-half! Lauren met her husband in college and have now been married for five year. She graduated with a degree in visual communication and is currently a stay-at-home-mama while her husband is in graduate school to get his PhD! Lauren loves all things creative, like baking yummy things (that she says don't always look Pinterest-worthy, but sure do taste good!). She communicates in TV and movie quotes, which I love! Lauren is genuinely just such a sweet soul and amazing example as a mama.  

I'm so excited for us to learn from Lauren today as she shares a little bit about how she has cultivated the all-too-relatable attribute that everyone struggles with when raising little humans: patience! As we apply her three simple steps to becoming more patient in parenting, I am sure we will all have a less stressful week ahead!

Doesn’t that poem just make your eyes well up?? I need daily... okay... hourly reminders to be patient. Unfortunately, it’s so easy (and normal!) to get frustrated with your kids. I was not born a patient person. In fact, I’m not so sure that I can even classify myself as a patient person at all, BUT it is something that I am constantly striving to be. Here are three key things that have been actually life-changing for me as I do my best to navigate motherhood with patience.

If you’ve seen Daniel Tiger’s neighborhood, you know how much of a saint Daniel’s mom is. She is literally THE mom I aspire to be. (Besides my own mom. Duh.) Honestly, this first tip should really be: “Watch Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood.” If nothing else, at least watch this little clip of Mom Tiger really quick and take notes! Then come right back to the blog post because I’m just getting started! ;)

Is the show trying to teach children how to control their emotions? Yes. Have I learned more about controlling my emotions than my kids have? Absolutely yes. My sweet son has caught on and always tells me, “good job, mom!” after I take my deep breaths. (Thanks little buddy! I always need the encouragement.) Breathe and then respond. It will do wonders. 

It drives me nuts when people sarcastically say to children: “Oh, your life must be SO hard!” Okay... hold up. At some phases in childhood, there is literally no way for children to communicate besides crying. So yes, it’s frustrating when you can’t figure out why your baby is crying, but it has got to be frustrating for THEM to not be able to tell you what’s wrong.  When children do start to talk, there are constant misunderstandings because, you know, they’re trying to learn a whole new language! If you ever took a foreign language class in high school, then you got a little glimpse of this. (Three years of Spanish over here and all I’ve got to show for it is: ¿Dónde está la biblioteca?) It’s no joke to learn a new language! 

Let’s not forget that children have such limited freedom. “You want to stay at the park for two more hours? Well shoot—instead you have to drive around in the car with me for an hour while I run errands. Sorry!” It’s not all that easy, so let’s cut our children some slack. 

Ralphie from Simply on Purpose shared this tip on her Instagram stories one time and I was MIND. BLOWN. I literally don’t know why I hadn’t thought of this myself but it has helped our little family so much.  My son has a lot of energy. Like... a lot. LOL. For so long, I would just expect him to always cooperate and listen to me. *Facepalm.* When he wouldn’t, I would get so frustrated and lose it. News flash to me: I shouldn’t expect my 3- year-old to sit perfectly still and quietly as I grocery shopped for a whole hour. I shouldn’t expect my 1-year-old to not start sucking on our Apple TV remote when I left it on the coffee table that’s literally right in front of her. The list goes on. I had been setting myself up for frustration with such unrealistic expectations! Children are going to act their age. 

Now, to avoid getting overly-frustrated with my son at the grocery store, I either go by myself, make my trips with him especially short, or do grocery pickup. (*Insert the praying hands emoji because we are truly blessed to live in a time where grocery pickup exists.*) As for my little girl sucking on our remote, I have learned to keep things I really don’t want to be sucked on out of reach… but I have also just accepted that she just is going to put our things in her mouth. Haha! Let them be little. “When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”

—L.R. Knost

You’re never going to be able to be patient 100% of the time. Patience is something that needs to be worked on constantly. It’s a bummer but it’s the truth. Set realistic expectations for yourself and remember to give yourself some grace. Start with one tiny thing you can do to keep from getting overly frustrated and go from there. This week, I’m going to really focus on taking deep breaths when I get worked up. Let’s learn patience. Let’s learn it for our kids and be the best moms we can be. You’ve got this, mama!

Thank you so much to Lauren for this insightful and tangible article on how to cultivate more patience! She makes it much more manageable and less overwhelming with her three takeaways:

Take a step back and breathe before we react or respond to our children

See life through our children's eyes and cut them some slack

Set realistic expectations and recognize your child's age to avoid frustration

August 24, 2020

Motherhood at a Glance: Redefining Beauty and Strengthening Self-Identity

Welcome to week fourteen in the Motherhood at a Glance feature segment! I'm so happy to introduce you to today's writer, Stephanie Barillas Mortensen!

Stephanie was born and raised in Southern California and is the daughter of Guatemalan Immigrants. She currently lives in Salt Lake City, UT with her husband, Kyle, and their sweet baby boy, Oliver! Stephanie works for a nonprofit that provides services to refugees, immigrants and survivors of persons in trafficking. She enjoys spending her free time outdoors with her family, traveling with her husband, trying new restaurants and going to brunch with girlfriends!

Stephanie is truly an amazing woman and I'm so grateful to know her and learn from her! I know what she has written today is going to resonate with so many of you and I hope you find the power in her words, as I did. Enjoy!

Self-Identity is something I have been working through for quite some time. This journey of self-searching started a few years ago. Beginning this process was important for me before I became a mama. I knew I had work to do, from accepting my culture and traditions, to loving my body and skin color. Growing up as the daughter of immigrants, I felt like I was living two different lives. At school I spoke English and at home we strictly spoke Spanish. We celebrated holiday traditions in a different way than most of my friends. We celebrated Christmas on December 24th at midnight, while my friends woke up early in the morning of the 25th to open gifts. Throughout my teenage years I always wanted to fit in. I had friends that were different from me. They were thin and white and seemed to have a desirable look, as far I could see.  

I watched these girls get asked to dance at school or church dances. I remember wishing that I looked more like them. I would often watch how much time I spent in the sun because I didn’t want to look too tan. Now, as an adult, I am learning to unlearn the meaning of beauty that society taught me.

While I was pregnant and anxiously awaited the arrival of my son Oliver, I dug deep in podcasts, books, blogs, parenting classes, and really anything I could research on parenting and motherhood. I came across Brené Brown’s “The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto”. As I read the words, “Above all else, I want you to know that you are loved and lovable. You will learn this from my words and actions - the lessons on love are in how I treat you and how I TREAT MYSELF.” These words hit me like a ton of bricks. 

As a mother, I hope and dream for my son a beautiful and authentic life where he feels free to love and be loved. Free to feel pain. Free to make mistakes. Free to succeed. Free to be unapologetically himself. If I have learned anything from parenting it is that Oliver needs to see my vulnerability. He needs to see me embrace myself and not hold back. I can no longer be ashamed of the skin that I am in. I can no longer suppress my thoughts and feelings. He will learn to live an authentic life by watching me live mine.  

I remember being pregnant and some of the advice I got was to go on as many dates with Kyle as I could and to cherish our time together. To watch all the movies or shows we wanted now because once the baby came, things would be different. It was as if I was going to lose all of my freedom to this little human. In reality, Oliver has set me free in a way I never Imagined. I feel encouraged to be more loving of myself, to feel more, to stand up for myself, to be quicker to apologize and to recognize my mistakes. I can allow myself to love at a whole new level. I am free to be me and, in turn, I truly believe that he is getting the best version of his mama that anyone has ever seen! What is that one thing that is a part of you that you have always wanted to dig deeper but are afraid to discover? For me it was learning more about my Guatemalan heritage. I had held back for many years fully embracing that side of myself for lots of reasons. 

One day, I decided that I felt beautiful in my brown skin and that I no longer wanted to be ignorant, but to be full of wisdom of the traditions of my ancestors. I wanted to know and love the land my mother and grandmother grew up in. In October of 2017, my husband and I made the big move to Guatemala and decided to live there for six months. It was a beautiful and healing experience to live my truth. I now understand more about my mother, and more about myself. We made sacred memories and I am excited to share them with my children.

Another major thing that has helped me cultivate these strengths is loving my body. I’m sure some of you can relate with this but I have been so harsh on my postpartum body. I caught myself mourning my old body, feeling frustrated with not being able to jump back into my old jeans and being super embarrassed of the extra weight and stretch marks. This was hard for me. I felt insecure not only about the way that I looked but also about my relationship with my husband. I would think to myself what if he no longer finds me attractive? He probably doesn’t think I’m beautiful. He probably misses my old body. I am now practicing using kind words when referring to my body and have addressed these insecurities by having open and honest conversations with my loving and supportive husband. I have also come up with three positive truths about my body. When I start to feel or have negative thoughts, I go back to these three truths:

1. My body helped me grow a beautiful and healthy baby boy for 39 whole weeks! 

2. My body shown me that I am capable of doing hard things. ( morning sickness/ labor) 

3. My body has helped me nourish this boy for the last seven months, and that’s so magical!

Lastly, I truly believe that empowered women empower women. Seek those who will allow you to create your own definition of what a good mother is and will support you through it. I feel absolutely lucky to have found women who love me and support me in this way. On the hard days, they keep me going. 

Also, I make it a point to not only receive, but also to give. I love giving a compliment whenever I can to my fellow mamas. Sometimes I have even messaged complete strangers on Instagram because I read how they had “one of those days”. I have been there, and I understand what that’s like and sometimes it’s just nice to hear that you are doing a great job! Also, I encourage you to be vulnerable and as organic as you can as you engage in these relationships. I know it’s scary - I was scared when Lauren reached out to me about this. Self-doubt quickly rolled in but here I am practicing vulnerability and sharing my truth with you all. I dare you to try it. It’s truly liberating.

Going back to my roots, loving and embracing my new postpartum body, and women empowerment has helped me in my journey to living a more authentic and unapologetic life. This might look different for you and that’s okay. I’m here for it. I’m here for our differences because those are things that make us who we are. I hope that through your journey of Motherhood you are able to be your true self. That one day your children will know that they are worthy of love and being loved because they watched you fiercely do so. 

“I will not teach or love or show you anything perfectly, but I will let you see me, and I will always hold sacred the gift of seeing you. Truly deeply seeing you.” -Brené Brown (The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto).

Thank you so much to Stephanie for sharing a truly insightful look into how to redefine beauty and strengthening your self-identity. These takeaways will help to build that foundation of motherhood that helps us to thrive, not just survive. As a recap, these are Stephanie's three steps:

Immerse yourself in your culture and allow it to strengthen your identity

Love and accept your body by recognizing it's blessings and strengths

Build an empowering community of women to give and receive love and support